February 2, 2026—Thirty-five years ago today, I said “I do” to the love of my life, Kit, and she said “I do” to me.

I had no idea what we were getting into, but nobody knows. The future is unknown to us. When we say “I do,” hopefully, it is to join two people who love each other enough to weather the uncertainty together. In fact, that’s part of the vow . . . in good times and in bad.

That is what love is about. It’s not the excitement of the moment (though Kit excited me from the moment I saw her and was afraid to ask her out, until today). It’s about a commitment to have each other’s back . . . in good times and in bad.

Kit has always had my back. I’ve tried to have hers. I’ve learned a lot from her. We’ve had great fun together. She is almost as funny as I am. And I can tell her anything, from my worst joke to my worst . . . fear. Sometimes we anticipate each other’s words. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing, but it happens. And Facebook gives us ads aimed at the other. (I’m sure that’s not a good thing.)

We’ve spent almost half of our lives together. We’ve seen a lot of this country and a bit of Europe together. We have two boys, now men, who makes us proud but still worry us sometimes . . . in good times and in bad.

We can’t know what the future will bring. But thirty-five years ago I gained a partner who will face the future together with me. I can’t think of anything better.

I love you forever, Kit.

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